A Dispute With Your Manager: What To Do?
Stay or Quit?
You have thought about it for weeks if you should or shouldn’t confront your manager. The sleepless nights during which you mulled things over suddenly seem to have come to an end when you stand in front of your manager and speak your mind.
First of all, good for you! It takes a lot of self-knowledge and confidence to admit to things that are bothering you. The result, however, could be that your well-intended attempts don’t exactly turn out the way you had hoped.You could, for instance, have thought that the conversation would lead to change and if, in the end, it doesn’t, the results could be demotivating.
After all, you will have to still have to work in the same setting without seeing change in terms of work processes and procedures.
Differences in opinion in the work space can arise due to:
- Any decisions taken with regards to staff policy. You can feel that a certain employee doesn’t work as hard as you or you notice any other signals that could have a negative effect on the relationship between the team and its achievements.
- When propositions or solutions are brought forward that are not taken seriously by your manager. As a result problems such as an increased workload will not be solved.
When a dispute with a manager isn’t completely solved and both parties are unable to find an appropriate solution, this will leave an everlasting mark.
This will happen more often than it will not. Have you ever known someone in the past who could easily bring about change? Change is always accompanied by resistance.
It is important to figure out for yourself why you came to this. Is it because you feel that the changes you would like to bring about are necessary for the company to grow? Or are your reasons a little different, a little more personal? You need to learn for yourself how important it is to you.
A dispute with your manager doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. People have different mindsets. It will, however, become a problem when the disputes start to hinder your personal growth and that of the company.
So here we are at the million dollar question: “Do I want to stay, or do I quit?”
Before you can answer this question you first need to answer the following questions:
- What have you got to lose to try it again? Don’t immediately give up after just one conversation. There could also be other people inside the company who could help. Look into the possibilities and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Do, however, in the meantime make sure that there isn’t any bad blood between you and your manager. You can achieve this by not taking things personally and always maintain a friendly attitude. You probably still enjoy your job in other aspects. For this reason you should give it some time.
- Does your own attitude contribute to the continuation of the problem? Think about your behaviour, thoughts and emotions. Take a step back from the problem and look at it from a corporate perspective.
- Do you feel that the problems at work block your own personal development? Don’t just quit. First you need to take a look around and become inspired by the job market. As such you are able to look for other options without the added stress.
Always take a proactive attitude. Meet new employers and new people.
- The most important: set yourself a goal and give yourself a deadline.
We are often willing to accept life for what it is. We don’t have to! We do, however, also don’t have to drastically change our lives overnight. Small, deliberate steps can lead to drastic changes.
Whatever you decide: there is no such thing as the perfect working environment. You could, however, get close to your ideal world. Sometimes by simply taking that one decision. Look at your situation and be honest to yourself. And don’t forget: be confident.
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